A little perspective on what to do with the fact that there’s an online “you” who may not look like the real thing.
I read a fantastic piece just now about what Dostoevsky knew about the internet.
Yup, you read that correctly. But let me back up.
One thing I’ve seen a lot of people—young and old—think and even worry about is the relationship between our “digital lives” and what we do offline.
- Roger Scruton implied in an AEI debate with Tyler Cowen a few years ago that the digital life stood in opposition to the real life and was therefore dangerous (think of people who get addicted to Facebook and see their offline lives suffer as a result).
- Nonprofit leaders constantly debate just how valuable it is to woo supporters on social media (at what point is the Facebook follower supposed to transition into a real person who is supporting you financially?).
- And perhaps the most common topic, the question of what to make of the “you” whom you present to the digital world—the curated you—versus the real you, who may not be as brilliant, sexy, and perfect.
I find one of the most annoying features of conversations about emerging technologies is a total disconnect between the past and the future. You’ve got the old fogies who read lots of old books and are inherently wary of all technology (eventually they crack and get an iPhone and this happens). And at the other end of the spectrum, you have the youthful folks who blithely accept all technology handed to them, and the professionals who insist that whatever they use for their bread and butter (email marketing, social media, etc.) is a godsend forever—and these people have no frame of reference for whether what they’re buying into will be around in a couple years. They’re so busy being excited they can do something, as Jeff Goldblum’s character says in Jurassic Park, that they don’t stop to ask if they should.
So imagine my embarrassingly childish grin when I saw somebody had written a thoughtful piece that brought some literary and historical perspective to the question of the “curated you.”
“We are warned that everything we put online could destroy our careers and relationships; that Google and Amazon read our emails, and so does the NSA. And in a social context, we are constantly visible—at least potentially so—to an entire network of friends and acquaintances, which gives every offhand comment the potential weight and reach of a manifesto. It’s as if we are standing in the center of a roomful of people, but we don’t know where they’re looking, and we can’t help but feel, both excitedly and uneasily, that they may well be looking at us. Paranoid narcissism—the mixed desires and fears of being watched by unknown others—thus defines virtual society, giving rise to numerous related anxieties such as the sense of exposed insignificance and the fear of missing out.”
I recommend reading the whole thing, which you can find here.
Brian Brown loves building the environments, habits, and networks that make people thrive. He is the founder of Humane Pursuits, where he writes a featured column and edits the Give channel. He started his consulting company, Narrator, to help great mission-driven organizations modernize and grow. He lives with his wife Christina and son Edmund in Colorado Springs, where they mix cocktails, hunt for historic architecture, and see how many people they can squeeze into their house for happy hour.